I hate to tell you this, but this message isn’t just for you – it’s for me too! It’s a written reminder of how I’ve fallen into this trap more than once. It’s happened during the early years of being a Wife and Mom, and as recent as a few months ago. We have to be intentional to not keep falling into this rut and resolve to live in the moment.
I want to spare you the pain of losing precious years like I did!
You see, when I think back to the time when my oldest was a little boy, I worked outside of the home (a lot), and took on many obligations that weren’t absolutely mandatory in my life. Not only that, but I had this habit of always longing for the next stage or the next big milestone in my life and in the life of my boy.
You know what I’m talking about. We all do it. When things get tough, like a baby that doesn’t sleep through the night or an active toddler that’s getting into everything — we long for the next, easier stage of life. We think, “I can’t wait until ___________.” We fill in that blank pretty regularly.
What resulted for me was that I blinked and my boy was five. Five! Those precious years of toddlerhood were gone in a flash and I felt as if my parents (his wonderful babysitters) had practically raised him. I could never get those years back. God began opening my eyes to the fact that even though my job was very satisfying (not gonna lie, I was good at it and made a lot of money!), there was something much more important at stake here …..
The life He gave me – that I was wishing away.
So how do we become truly present and live in the moment no matter how hard or sometimes mundane? I’m so glad you asked!
For me, I couldn’t just quit my job at that moment, but God helped me make some major changes. What happened was that my life became more fun, meaningful, and fulfilling than I ever thought possible. God’s pretty wise and cool like that, isn’t He?!
Start on your knees
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it until I croak … there’s something powerful about a woman that literally gets on her face before the Lord. Whether you have to hide in your bathroom with the door locked, or sneak into a closet, show the Lord that you mean business by physically submitting your life to His best plan for you.
This may not be God’s plan for you, but He changed my worldly thoughts of making my professional mark in this world to a mindset of raising a godly man instead. I started longing to be a stay-at-home Mom with everything in me. It was insane. It took a while to make it happen but my heart was not satisfied until it did. He gave me the new desire of my heart and I appreciated it all the more because of the years I had wasted!
The mind of man plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps. Prov 16:9
For this God is our God for ever and ever: he will be our guide even unto death. Ps. 48:14
Don’t take it for granted
I don’t have to tell you that life is not promised. We all know those who were snatched from this life in an instant in death without warning. A very vivid reminder for me is a friend who lost her husband and five-year-old daughter on just a regular, ‘ol ho-hum day. God has a greater plan than what we could ever understand, but I’ve never gotten over how her life changed forever that day.
That was a day I resolved to live in the moment!
The day that my friend’s husband and daughter walked out the door together to leave, my friend had no idea she’d never see them again. I’ve watched her live in incredible faith that day and she’s shared her thoughts and pain. It’s a daily reminder to me that I BETTER not take each day for granted. I try my best to make sure that I’m connected, that I’m present and that I’m showing my people every. single. day that I love them.
Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that.” Jam 4:13-15
Find an older friend
I was reminded again yesterday of how powerful it is to be surrounded by godly women that you can share this life with. I have been on both sides of this scenario: #1) the young wife desperately wanting to live for the Lord but having a tough time and needing the wisdom of an older Christian woman, and #2) the Wife and Mom whose kids are older with lots of (not so perfect) experiences to share.
Oh honey, do not discount the truth that can be learned from an older woman that loves the Lord! The things I’ve learned about how to live in the moment from women that have been willing to pour godly counsel into my life instead of what I “wanted to hear.” The tough things that normal folk just don’t talk about like submitting to your husband or disciplining your children when it “ain’t” popular!
Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Titus 2:3-5
There’s SO. MUCH. STUFF that grabs our attention each day. I’m here to challenge you to exercise that muscle that I’m calling your “intentional” muscle (yeah, I just made that up). Practice being intentional. It does get easier. I’m certainly not perfect but the Lord knows the desire of my heart and when I begin to stray away into LaLa land, He performs a proverbial yank in my chain to get me back on track.
Yeah, He’s cool like that. He’ll do it for you too if you just ask. You might enjoy these quotes from famous people about this topic like I did.
Do YOU live in the moment?
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