Father Daughter Dance
Although our local Father Daughter dance doesn’t promote it as a Purity Ball, I believe that’s how this whole dance idea came about. It was a symbol of purity and promise to trust their Fathers by remaining pure until marriage. Against the current culture that would tell girls that it isn’t cool, I love any old fashioned notion to enjoy genuine youth and I have even more ulterior motives for standing behind our local dance and all of the hoopla and expense that goes with it.
There’s a response from our culture that says there are “cooler” things to do as a teenager than spending so much time with cooler things like hanging out with friends non-stop, listening to music nonstop, going to every single new movie, getting more new clothes every weekend, wearing lots of makeup to look older, and being boy crazy. Guess what else?
Don’t get me wrong, friends, movies, music, and occasional new clothes are not a bad thing. What’s not good is to allow your family to compromise because everyone else is doing it and it’s the normal, teenager way. If you’ve been around me at all, you know that I’m not worried about being normal as people are concerned.
Normal is so overrated. I am thankful though.
Why am I so thankful for this time and memory in her life? I am grateful for more reasons than the obvious. Yes, the Father Daughter dance is an excuse to pamper her with a new dress, new shoes, and a Mani/Pedi, but it’s much more than that.
She all about the preparation. In the hours that we spend pampering on that day, there are many opportunities for heart-felt discussions and life lessons. She’s in training to be a Proverbs 31 Princess after all.
The time that she and I spend together gives me time to prepare her to know:
- How to act like a lady
- How to dress cute but modestly
- How to dress with God-given femininity
- How to show grace to others
- How to embrace Godly friendships
As they drive away, I pray that she always has a sweet spirit towards her Dad and that she cherishes the blessing of having a wonderful Dad in her life who gives good counsel.
“The hearts of the wise make their mouths prudent, and their lips promote instruction.” Proverbs 16:23
Father Daughter dance traditions
Dad takes her out to dinner, they get pictures made and finally it’s time to be off to the dance with her friends and their fathers. The time that she and her Dad spend together gives Dad time to:
- Treat her like a lady
- Praise her for being modest and sweet
- Show her how to extend grace to others
- Experience what Godly friendships look like
“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” Psalm 127:3
I challenge other families to embrace their kids and to stop listening to what the world says is normal ~ for them to always be with their friends (boyfriends/girlfriends, video games, etc), and never be with you. When it’s all said and done, they want your attention, your laughter, your instruction, and yes, even your boundaries. They’d never admit it, but it’s true.
“Teach my decrees to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 11:19
As a Mom, Aunt, Grandmother, or mentor, I encourage you to take the time with young women in your life and invest the time to help them find their worth and beauty in Christ.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” Titus 1:3-5
And may God bless you for your efforts, my friend.
Father Daughter dance this year?
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