Holiday Blues: How To Fight Them & Change That Attitude, Honey!

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Holiday Blues!

A rut, a funk, holiday blues, or just an incredibly bad attitude – whatever you want to call it, it happens to us all, friend!  The holidays are upon us and your to-do list has you in the dumps.  Tough breaks, all of this post-election mess, or really serious problems you face may be giving you major anxiety.  Hang in there, sis, I’m here to help …..

Holiday Blues List to Bring you out of the Gutter!

I’m coming clean with you: my mind holds many wonderful holiday memories, but this time of year also brings a flood of incredibly sad and scary events that the enemy tries to stir up in my mind to make me lose my joy.  Death, fire, miscarriage, family division, and that’s just a start.

Those memories plus the busyness of this season (sprinkled with hormones), and whew, it can send me into holiday blues for days.  At the very least, an awful attitude can swell up where I can’t even stand myself!  Anyone?  Anyone?

So how do I fight the bad attitude & really enjoy the holidays?

Let’s be real ->  I can get spun-up and have a tizzy like any other wife, but by going through the following facts, I can at least keep these to a minimum and fight the enemy’s tactics to ruin what should be the best time of the year.  😉

How to Fight Holiday Blues

For so many, holiday blues revolve around the fact that death has claimed those close to us.  It’s hard to move past the thought of, “How do I celebrate when there’s an empty place at my table and in my heart?”

Many of us also get down-and-out because of the hard circumstances that surround us that won’t go away.  And everyone single one of us feels stress from the insane amount of stuff that gets crammed into November and December.  No matter what the “thorn in your side” may be right now, I’m proposing that we remember, gather, love, and work.


Honey, we must remember four things.

  1. God’s ways are not our ways – His is timing and will is perfect
  2. Our hurts and a painful past can be used for His glory
  3. We must never forget what God has already done in our lives
  4.  God’s not done with you yet!

Can’t you look back on your life and thank God almighty for NOT answering that prayer you thought you just had to have?  Don’t you think there is someone, somewhere that could be encouraged by hurts of your past and how you pushed through to the other side?  Aren’t you awe-struck at times when you think back to all that God has brought you through?  You don’t think your work for the kingdom is done, do you?

We need the reminders.  It’s true!  Just like the Israelites that wandered the desert and saw God’s power over and over, we forget!  We get so caught up in our own hamster wheels that it slips our minds what God has done for us.  If the enemy can’t steal our joy other ways, he’ll make us too frantically busy to recall the Lord’s goodness.

I double-dog-dare you to close your eyes right now and remember all of the answered prayers God has granted, the unanswered prayers that He held on to, and all of the promises still to come in His Word.


I heard a profound thing yesterday at church:  “So many people are living a defeated life because they aren’t serving Jesus.”  Just repeat it to yourself again and let it sink in.  That statement could be taken many ways, but my pastor pointed out how Thomas (John 20) had missed out on the prior week’s assembly with the other disciples and Jesus.  He wasn’t there to hear the preaching and to possibly be encouraged by other believers.  His nickname became doubting Thomas.

As Christians we miss out on so much if refuse to gather together systematically to worship God and serve Him in our communities and around the world.  Yes, we can worship God anywhere, but we just agreed in the section above that we need lots of reminders of God’s promises because we stray and we forget – church assembly does that and we need it to thrive!

Let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near. Hebrews 10:24-25

Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:27


Holiday blues escalate with that stress of having to love people.  Some folks make it very hard to love them, don’t they?  In light of the upcoming family gatherings and post-election hot mess we’ve been living through, let me ask you a question …..

Even though fellow Christians and family members disagree on worship music styles, church attire, and, (wait for it ->), politics, do you think God wants the division that Christian folk have today?  Nope, I didn’t think so either.  Now don’t get me wrong, we are not to be of this world, therefore we are called to be set apart, different.

Here comes a big BUT, y’all!

We must seek the Lord and His leading to love one another.  Yes, we are to love the lost, but I’m talking about how Paul told us to treat fellow Christians.  Not only should we swallow our pride to love one another as Christ loves us, but here’s my heart:

This ought not be, yall!  No wonder lost people are confused and running from Jesus just as fast as they can.  (I’ve personally, ahem, unfollowed several Christian folk that I love but would find myself arguing with in front of God and everyone on FB if I didn’t).  You can read the perspective of an online friend of mine in her post called, An Open Letter to the Church – Post Election.

1 Corinthians 13 is often thought of with romantic themes (it was part of my wedding ceremony), but I’ve been so convicted to realise how I have failed miserably at times.

If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag andis not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,  does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails …..


So what do we do with all these reminders today?  We have work harder than ever!  What do I mean?  I mean be proactively fighting the enemy’s urge to fall in a pit of dispair over things we cannot control.  We can work to stay in God’s word consistently.  We can a work to help others less fortunate than us.

No matter how busy we are, we find time to do the things we want.  Amen?  Digging into God’s word daily and seeking out how to help others are two things that will get the focus off of ourselves.  No matter how bad I get to feeling about my circumstances, I can always think of others way worse off than me.  Can’t you?

Here’s what we can do:

  • Remember what God has done for us and that He works all good to those who love Him
  • Gather with other Christians to encourage and be encouraged and further the kingdom
  • Love one another
  • Work to keep our joy, hide God’s word in our hearts, and help others

Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.  Galatians 6:9

You already knew everything that I shared today, friend, but maybe, like me, you lose your way.  You lose heart.  We get the mully-grubs.  You get caught up in the crazy-town thoughts and fears until they become bigger in your mind for a while than God is.  When we come to our senses, we know that God can handle this.  But we forget!

I pray that today has been a reminder that we must not give up, but rather, fight these holiday blues from stealing our joy.  The devil is crafty remember?  He’ll use anything, but now you are onto his schemes. God is by your side.

Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us …..

Even though I wrote this stinkin’ post, I’ll get down in the dumps again sometimes.  When I do, I will come back to this post and read it again.

How will you fight the holiday blues?

Holiday Blues List to Bring you out of the Gutter!

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    • Shan
      November 15, 2016 / 6:25 am

      Thank you so much, Belle. Means a lot. Have a wonderful holiday season!


  1. November 14, 2016 / 3:44 pm

    It never fails that for some reason I always get the holiday blues about a week before Christmas and it drives me crazy. Thank you for the tips, definitely going to put them to use this year!

    • Shan
      November 15, 2016 / 6:24 am

      Awe, Bridget, glad I’m not completely alone in this. Blessings to you as you find joy and KEEP it this holiday season. Thank you so much.


  2. November 14, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    Thank for sharing this post. It was exactly what I needed to hear today.

    • Shan
      November 15, 2016 / 6:23 am

      Jen, that completely makes my day. It was the Lord talking on this one – I just typed the words. Thank you so much and have a wonderful holiday!


  3. December 6, 2016 / 12:30 am

    Thanks so much for linking to my post. You’re awesome!

  4. December 31, 2016 / 6:29 am

    Just forget the bad memories and focus on the good one. Avoid stress and be happy.

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