We all need a refuge to come home to after battling the demands of this world. I don’t know about you, but I get caught up in the busy and forget to make my home a peaceful and haven-ish place. The reality is that we slowly fall into a rut where home isn’t a sanctuary anymore and the thought to prepare our hearts is nowhere on the radar. The TV’s blaring, the house is chaotic, and we’re not talking to each other – we’re stuck on our devices. Sometimes my mind also becomes a cluttered and anxious hot mess. BUT… it’s a new season. Join me with these helpful hacks to get us back on track!
Prepare our hearts and home
Each season has its own perks. For instance, Summer is a great time of unpredictability, random fun, and messiness. That’s why we love it, right? What I’ve found is that by each season’s end, I’m ready to organize my life again.
God is so wise to give us seasons, isn’t he?
How to create time with God
During this fresh start, we can commit to a systematic time to spend alone with God. Only you and I can determine how long and when according to what season of our lives we are in. As long as our heart and commitment are present, our time with our Savior will not be in vain. We can learn lessons from Him that will change our focus to the important to-dos in our lives.
Decide when is best to get alone with God. For most, getting up before the family each day for the peace and quiet is a great idea. It’s hard, but it’s so rewarding. Find a short bible study online or on your phone that is profitable but simple (there will be a bible study group here on THTG soon).
How to encourage family time with God
We can’t make our family have a personal time with God daily. When we finally see the reward of systematic time with God, we want it for our loved ones too. We can teach younger ones how, but for olders and husbands, nagging won’t help!
All we can do is lead our family by example and use encouraging words. Committing to pray for our husbands and our kids on a daily basis is huge. Pray for them privately and in their presence.
How to create a sanctuary home
I’m not suggesting a perfect home but an intentional decision. A home where the whole family knows that they are loved and protected – physically and emotionally. It’s a tough world out there. Knowing that there’s a safe sanctuary to come home to will do more for our people than we could ever realize.
Have a no tolerance rule against constant bickering among family. Yes, there will be disagreements but there should not be a feeling of having to win battles at home. A sanctuary is a place to relax and recharge and be with the ones you love. This attitude begins with us. We should pray for wisdom to respond with grace and patience to our family.
How to create a cozy nest
Creating a cozy nest that our people love to come home to is so important. Would we want to come home to a chaotic, cluttered home? Or even worse, a perfectly neat but sterile one? No one really wants that, right?
I’m decorator-challenged, but I refuse to give up on this. Clutter serves no one, so the first step is to declutter and live with less in those areas like the living room and kitchen where the fam spends the most time. Then fill the rooms with some unique pieces that feel cozy and full of love. Things like multiple textures, meaningful wall hangings, and a burning candle go a long way!
I’m convinced that the reason everyone is ‘farmhouse’ crazy is that it exudes a feeling of cozy charm that we all want our homes to represent.
How to connect with our people again
There’s no way around it – as wives, we must fight for the limited amount of family time when everyone is actually at home together. We all have good intentions of family dinners and deep conversation. You’ve probably realized like I have that if we don’t set firm plans for it, it ain’t gonna happen, honey!
Create rules about device time during the evenings. This doesn’t have to be complicated. Is everyone home by 8 p.m.? Have a basket on the counter where everyone puts their device in it for an hour while the fam plays a board game, chills around the fireplace, or even watches TV together.
Even if everyone can’t manage to always eat dinner together, we can commit to an hour of undistracted family time, can’t we? Because of extracurricular stuff, this won’t be possible every night but let’s fight to make it happen on the nights that we can.
How do YOU suggest we prepare our hearts and home for new seasons?